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mselves： Is this really the best way out of here？
So many people “miss the boat” because it’s easier and more forting to follow…to follow without questioning the qualifications of the people just ahead—than to do some independent thinking and checking。
A hard thing for most people to fully understand is that people in such numbers can be so wrong； like the caterpillars going around and around the edge of the flowerpot； with life and food just a short distance away。 If most people are living that way； it must be right； they think。 But a little checking will reveal that throughout all recorded history the majority of mankind has an unbroken record of being wrong about most things； especially important things。 For a time we thought the earth was flat and later we thought the sun； stars； and planets traveled around the Earth。
Both ideas are now considered ridiculous； but at the time they were believed and defended by the vast majority of followers。 In the hindsight of history we must have looked like those caterpillars blindly following the follower out of habit rather than stepping out of line to look for the truth。
It’s difficult for people to e to the understanding that only a small minority of people ever really get the word about life； about living abundantly and successfully。 Success in the important departments of life seldom es naturally； no more naturally than success at anything—a musical instrument； sports； fly…fishing； tennis； golf； business； marriage； parenthood。
But for some reason most people wait passively for success to e to them—like the caterpillars going around in circles； waiting for sustenance； following nose to tail—living as other people are living in the unspoken； tacit assumption that other people know how to live successfully。
It’s a good idea to step out of the line every once in a while and look around to see if the line is going where we want it to go。 If it is not； it might be time for a new leader and a new direction。
让自己轻松一刻
佚名
没有人可以做任何事。每个人都必须作出选择，接受调整。问题是许多人都会选择将自己和健康放置最后。他们关心房子和车子，胜过他们自己。他们将别人的需求放于首位。如果是偶尔的事，那也是可以的。如果能保持平衡，那也没问题。但是许多人的那种生活方式使他们非常疲惫，感觉失控。幸运的是，生活不需要那样。
一句俗语非常有用：是索尔？高登与哈罗德？布罗舍尔合作的一本书的名字——《生活变幻莫测——吃了甜点再说》。如果好东西常常放置在最后，它们通常会消失。将工作放于健康和快乐之前，工作很快就会取代健康和快乐。
请注意它是怎样发生的：人们忙于工作，觉得时间很短；他们将锻炼和吃饭的时间省去，后来就减少休息的时间。很快，他们忙碌到没有时间去探望朋友，他们停止读书或是打球，六个月都不散步。这不是生活的好方式。
该怎样解决这种情况呢？总而言之，懂得取舍。看清你生活中想要的是什么，将其放置首位。以日常生活为基础，包括固定的膳食，足够的睡眠和与家人共处的时间。锻炼、休闲、友谊和爱好也是生活的基本方面。关键是做自己的事情：不管怎样，只要感觉自己和生活舒适就好。抽个空小睡一会儿、散散步、弹弹钢琴。当然，你必须将最近的许多麻烦事替换掉。不要将公文包从办公室带回家。不要将自己的房间打扫得像你母亲的房间一样洁净。将更多的时间用于你想做的事情，而不是必须做的事情。
将你的名字列入想要制造快乐的人的名单中。不要“我第一”或是“唯我独尊”，而要“我也是”。平衡才是目标。许可才是关键。就从此刻开始！
■ 心灵小语
现代社会的生活节奏越来越快，人们的压力也越来越大，通常会使人无法适应、情绪低迷、生活失控。所以我们要以健康的身体、愉悦的心情、积极的心态投入到工作和学习中，做到每天都心情舒畅，微笑着面对生活。
Give Yourself a Break
Anonymous
No one can do it all．Each of us has to make choices and accept trade…offs。 The problem is，many people choose in ways that put themselves and their health last． They take better care of their houses and cars than they do of themselves． They put everyone else’s needs ahead of their own． That’s fine if it’s occasional． It would eyen be okay if there was a balance． But most people living that way are wearing themselves out，feeling out of control．Fortunately，life doesn’t have to be like that．
One phrase can be very helpful：It’s the name of a book by Sol Gordon and Harold Brochure，Life Is Uncertain—Eat Dessert First！ If the good stuff always gets left until last，it usually doesn’t happen． Work before health and pleasure soon bees work instead of health and pleasure．
Notice how it happens：Folks get busy and run short of time；they stop exercising or start skipping meals；next they steal time from their sleep．Soon they get too busy to see friends；they stop reading or playing ball，and six months go by without a long walk． That’s not a great way to live．
So what is the solution？ In a word，prioritize． Decide what you want in your life，and put that first． On a daily basis，that should include regular meals，adequate sleep and time with your family． Exercise，leisure，friendships and hobbies should also be regular aspects of life．The point is to do something for yourself： whatever makes you feel good about yourself and your life． Take a nap． Take a walk．Take time to play the piano．Of course，you’ll have to trade off some of the things that are currently clogging your schedule to make room for your new priorities． Stop bringing your briefcase home from the office． Stop keeping your house as clean as your mother kept hers． Fill more of your time with want…to…do instead of have…to…do．
Add your name to the list of people who’re trying to make happy． Not “me first” or “me only” but “me，too”。 Balance is the goal． Permission is the key．And the time to start is now．
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清理心灵空间（1）
珍妮弗？吉弗莱
回想一下你上次产生的消极情绪，如压抑、气愤或受挫。当你身处那种消极情绪中时，你的头脑里在想些什么呢？你的头脑是混乱如麻？还是瘫痪了，不能再进行思考？
下一次，当你发现自己非常压抑，或者极其愤怒，或者万分沮丧时，尽量停止吧。对！就是停止。无论你现在正做着什么，停止手头的工作，静坐一会儿。静坐的同时，让自己完全沉浸在消极的情绪之中。
让那种情绪完全将你吞噬，让自己有一点时间，真实地去感受那种情绪。在这里，不要欺骗自己。用整整一分钟——仅仅一分钟——不去做其他任何事情，只去感受那种情绪。
当整整一分钟过去，问问你自己：“在今天剩余的时间里，我愿意继续这种消极情绪吗？”
只要你彻底地将自己沉入其中，并真实地去体会它，你就会意外地发现那种情绪很快就消失了。
如果你觉得有必要再将这种情绪继续一段时间，那好，没关系，再给自己一分钟，去体会这种情绪。
如果你觉得自己体会得很透彻了，那就问问自己是否愿意让这种消极继续在你的剩余时间里存在。如果是“不”，那就深呼吸一次，将所有的消极随着你的呼吸释放出去。
这种方法看似简单——几乎是过分地简单了，但是其效果却很显著。通过给自己真正体会消极情绪的空间，你能够真正与这种情绪接触，而不是去压抑它、回避它。给这种情绪一定的空间，给它必要的关注，这样真正使你消除了其力量。当你沉浸在这种情绪中时，就会明白它只是一种情感，就会不再受其影响。然后，你就可以清理自己的头脑，继续工作了。
试试这种方法。下一次当你处于消极的情绪之中时，让自己有体会这种情绪的一点空间，然后看看随后会发生什么。随身带着一张写着下面这些话的纸：
停止。让自己在这种情绪中沉浸一分钟。我想要这种情绪继续下去吗？深呼吸，放松，继续行动！
这张纸会提醒你要做的步骤。需要牢记的是，用必要的时间真正将自己沉浸在那种情绪之中。然后，当你认为自己充分体会了这种情绪时，就将其释放——让它真正地从你的心中消失。你一定会惊讶于摆脱消极情绪并着手工作的迅速。
■ 心灵小语
遇到了挫折，精神状态不好，于是情绪低迷，烦闷不安，不能专心工作，心情浮躁，想必这样的情况大家都遇到过，你是怎样克服的呢？本文就给大家建议了一个很好的方法，可以使大家从心理上打败这种消极情绪，积极投身于工作。可以尝试一下，效果很不错！
Clear Your Mental Space
Jennifer Givler
Think about the last time you felt a negative1 emotion—like stress； anger； or frustration。 What was going through your mind as you were going through that negativity？ Was your mind cluttered with thoughts？ Or was it paralyzed； unable to think？
The next time you find yourself in the middle of a very stressful time； or you feel angry or frustrated2； stop。 Yes； that’s right； stop。 Whatever you’re doing； stop and sit for one minute。 While you’re sitting there； pletely immerse yourself in the negative emotion。
Allow that emotion to consume you。 Allow yourself one minute to truly feel that emotion。 Don’t cheat yourself here。 Take the entire minute—but only one minute—to do nothing else but feel that emotion。
When the minute is over； ask yourself； “Am I willing to keep holding on to this negative emotion as I go through the rest of the day？”。 最好的txt下载网
清理心灵空间（2）
Once you’ve allowed yourself to be totally immersed3 in the emotion and really feel it； you will be surprised to find that the emotion clears rather quickly。
If you feel you need to hold on to the emotion for a little longer； that is OK。 Allow yourself another minute to feel the emotion。
When you feel you’ve had enough of the emotion； ask yourself if you’re willing to carry that negativity with you for the rest of the day。 If not； take a deep breath； as you exhale4； release all that negativity with your breath。
This exercise seems simple—almost too simple。 But； it is very effective。 By allowing that negative emotion the space to be truly felt； you are